Want A Great Relationship? Know Your Love Languages
Relationships aren't always easy. They can take lots of patience, love, and kindness. It helps to know what makes your partner feel the love - that's where 'love languages' come in.
The premise of 'love languages' is simple: if you know what your partner needs to feel loved, and you provide that, your relationship will thrive. The whole thing was devised by Dr. Gary Chapman. He wrote a book, and now that book and his philosophy has been embraced by millions of people.
Let's say you keep saying nice things to your spouse. "You look great today, honey." That's nice, but in order to really feel loved, maybe she wants you to shovel the front steps, instead. "Acts of Service" may be her love language.
The 5 main languages are (and these all come from 5lovelanguages.com)
- Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “Thanks for
taking out the garbage.” Not ��� “It’s about time you took the garbage out. The
flies were going to carry it out for you.”
- Gifts – a gift says, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”
- Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
- Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention.
Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and
- Physical touch – holding hands, hugging, kissing, sex, are all expressions of love.
"Out of these five, each of you has a primary love language which speaks more
deeply to you than all the others. Discovering each other’s language and speaking
it regularly is the best way to keep love alive in a marriage."
Do you want to know what your Love Language is? You can take a quiz and find out - whether you're in a relationship or not.