Why Do Your Kids Fight?
I grew up right smack in the middle of 7 kids. Not having someone to play with was never ever an issue. However, not having someone to fight with was never an issue either. My two monkeys fight a lot, but I wouldn’t say they fight more than typical kids. So why do they fight? Not really a mystery, if you just break it down a little. Often times I think we forget that our children are just like little adults. They have mood swings just like everyone else. Some kids are more sensitive than other, and most siblings know exactly what buttons to push to set the other over the edge.
My kids, 18 months apart in age, ages 8 and10, are certainly no exception to any of this. Some things I need to consider before I blow my top at them about their fights are; 1. They are young and still growing in maturity, I shouldn’t expect them to completely tolerant of each other. 2. They spend more time with each other than anyone else, including their parents.
I think that when I get mad at them I generally adopt the “I’m the dad and I’m the boss” state of mind. I find when doing this, I’m cutting them off from having an opportunity to explain their side of the story as to why they are fighting. When I do this, it often creates more frustration and actually fuels the fire. So what can we do as parents to play more of a role of referee, than almighty ruler? I found a lot of good information right here. Check it out.
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